You think your opinion matters?
I had a recent conversation with someone close to me, who is a huge worrywart and (in my opinion) care waaayy too much about what others think of him.
Me: If someone doesn't like me, it's their loss what why I care?
Him: But if someone doesn't like me, I want to know why so I won't do it again.
Me: But u never gonna please everyone, even if u changed based on a nobody's opinion, then you'll always change and never be happy.
Him: No, I won't change the way I treat him/her but lets say, A doesn't like me, I want to know why so I won't repeat it on B.
So we came to a conclusion that we both are not wrong. It's not in my nature to force someone on my opinion. But I cannot live caring about what every nobody thinks of me.
If my friend thinks that he wants to know exactly what he did wrong so he wouldn't do it again on someone new and offend the new person, then thats his perogative.
But I sure as hell, don't give a shit about whether you like me or not.
Maybe because I have really awesome friends and close people around me, wonderful people who knows what kind of personality I have and still stuck around.
So much so that I do not care about what other NEW people think about me.
(Note: I do make many new friends be it at work or at social events so I don't think theres anything wrong with me tbh.)
Also, you need to know that not everyone in the world is gonna get along, so if you meet 1 or 2 people who doesn't like how u eat or how u speak.
Then so be it. You don't live to please others.
I mean, if you don't like me just because of the way I talk, or the way I sit or the way I work, then that's your problem and you need to grow the fuck up and deal with it.
But that's you, I'm not gonna tell you what to do. You can continue to dislike me, it's never going to affect me.
People make the mistake of thinking that their opinion matters.
No it doesn't unless you're in class and your teacher asked you. If not, please keep your mouth shut and sit your ass down.
Do my opinion matter? No. If you think my piece on this is rubbish then that's fine for me. I don't care.
No one is gona think they are wrong, or that they are annoying and their opinion is stupid (like me, thats why i'm typing this)
So what makes u think that if you tell that person, the person will like/dislike you more? or that ther person will change?
You can argue that its "for their own good" but who the hell asked u to care for my well-being?
Argue and say that this is a dangerous way society is heading towards, a place where people only care about themselves.
No. I am not asking you to not care about people. I am asking you to care about that people that matters.
You want to care about what your colleague is feeling after getting a dressing down from the manager?
How about care about whether your dad is having a hard time at work today and if he needs extra cash for that old bed he has been sleeping on for the past 30 years?
You want to harp on the snide comment your colleague passed to you or think about how your husband/wife kissed you before leaving work today?
You want to care about your friend's friend getting a divorce, or care about your BFF's spat with her boyfriend?
You can argue and say marriage more important than qarrel with boyfriend what. Then that's your perogative, I am not questioning you nor trying to change your views.
But I am putting people closer to me, even closer to me. While people who come and go, I am treating them like footsteps in the sand.
It's YOUR choice who you want to care and concern about, and its also YOUR choice if you want to put negative or positive words in your heart.
Remember its YOUR choice and you are the only one who can make yourself happy.
Me: If someone doesn't like me, it's their loss what why I care?
Him: But if someone doesn't like me, I want to know why so I won't do it again.
Me: But u never gonna please everyone, even if u changed based on a nobody's opinion, then you'll always change and never be happy.
Him: No, I won't change the way I treat him/her but lets say, A doesn't like me, I want to know why so I won't repeat it on B.
So we came to a conclusion that we both are not wrong. It's not in my nature to force someone on my opinion. But I cannot live caring about what every nobody thinks of me.
If my friend thinks that he wants to know exactly what he did wrong so he wouldn't do it again on someone new and offend the new person, then thats his perogative.
But I sure as hell, don't give a shit about whether you like me or not.
Maybe because I have really awesome friends and close people around me, wonderful people who knows what kind of personality I have and still stuck around.
So much so that I do not care about what other NEW people think about me.
(Note: I do make many new friends be it at work or at social events so I don't think theres anything wrong with me tbh.)
Also, you need to know that not everyone in the world is gonna get along, so if you meet 1 or 2 people who doesn't like how u eat or how u speak.
Then so be it. You don't live to please others.
I mean, if you don't like me just because of the way I talk, or the way I sit or the way I work, then that's your problem and you need to grow the fuck up and deal with it.
But that's you, I'm not gonna tell you what to do. You can continue to dislike me, it's never going to affect me.
People make the mistake of thinking that their opinion matters.
No it doesn't unless you're in class and your teacher asked you. If not, please keep your mouth shut and sit your ass down.
Do my opinion matter? No. If you think my piece on this is rubbish then that's fine for me. I don't care.
No one is gona think they are wrong, or that they are annoying and their opinion is stupid (like me, thats why i'm typing this)
So what makes u think that if you tell that person, the person will like/dislike you more? or that ther person will change?
You can argue that its "for their own good" but who the hell asked u to care for my well-being?
Argue and say that this is a dangerous way society is heading towards, a place where people only care about themselves.
No. I am not asking you to not care about people. I am asking you to care about that people that matters.
You want to care about what your colleague is feeling after getting a dressing down from the manager?
How about care about whether your dad is having a hard time at work today and if he needs extra cash for that old bed he has been sleeping on for the past 30 years?
You want to harp on the snide comment your colleague passed to you or think about how your husband/wife kissed you before leaving work today?
You want to care about your friend's friend getting a divorce, or care about your BFF's spat with her boyfriend?
You can argue and say marriage more important than qarrel with boyfriend what. Then that's your perogative, I am not questioning you nor trying to change your views.
But I am putting people closer to me, even closer to me. While people who come and go, I am treating them like footsteps in the sand.
It's YOUR choice who you want to care and concern about, and its also YOUR choice if you want to put negative or positive words in your heart.
Remember its YOUR choice and you are the only one who can make yourself happy.
#LETBITTERPEOPLESTAYBITTERWITHOUTCONTAMINATINGYOURHEART
Respect
Had been sorting out my thoughts for the past few days.
Wanted to post yesterday but I didn't
because every single time I try to think of something to post,
everything just don't seem to fit or somethings are just not meant to be spoken.
Either way, you're going to be offended.
But still, I need to let go of this feeling.
so here goes..
I always.. feel that, respect is not something earned by a person,
or something you can get just by respecting another human being.
It is something you, yourself must have. (ie. Self-Respect)
There is no such thing as expecting people to give it to you, when you don't even respect yourself.
Know that boundary, and don't cross that line.
It is easier said then done, I, too, am learning to respect myself .
Wanted to post yesterday but I didn't
because every single time I try to think of something to post,
everything just don't seem to fit or somethings are just not meant to be spoken.
Either way, you're going to be offended.
But still, I need to let go of this feeling.
so here goes..
I always.. feel that, respect is not something earned by a person,
or something you can get just by respecting another human being.
It is something you, yourself must have. (ie. Self-Respect)
There is no such thing as expecting people to give it to you, when you don't even respect yourself.
Know that boundary, and don't cross that line.
It is easier said then done, I, too, am learning to respect myself .
Double Standards
Recently I have still been getting harassment PM and messages from Tzuyu "fans" and so called "ONCE" who are still beating me up about calling Tzuyu being "pretty with a stick personality".
Then I browse their profiles and see them calling TWICE "bitches"
"OMG THIS BITCH MESSING UP MY HEART!"
So... it's ok, and a "joke" to call Tzuyu a bitch but not ok to say she has a stick personality?
What the hell is wrong with young fans nowadays?
NEWSFLASH: It is not ok to call anyone a bitch. It is a highly offensive and hugely derogatory term.
Not that I am absolving myself for calling Tzuyu a "stick". I meant that as a joke for her stiff appearance on variety shows.
But somehow, my joke was distasteful, abhorrent and deemed "not a ONCE" or a "Tzuyu hater" but, if you call Tzuyu a bitch, you're a ONCE and a huge fan of TWICE?
Pardon me, but don't use the excuse that the person is obviously a fan for saying that Tzuyu messed with her heart. You don't get to call someone a bitch just because she messed up your heart.
So should my term have been
"That stick personality messed up my heart!!"
Would that make me a ONCE then? How is calling someone who have a stick personality any worse than calling someone a bitch??
Y'all prerogatives are seriously fucked up.
Then I browse their profiles and see them calling TWICE "bitches"
"OMG THIS BITCH MESSING UP MY HEART!"
So... it's ok, and a "joke" to call Tzuyu a bitch but not ok to say she has a stick personality?
What the hell is wrong with young fans nowadays?
NEWSFLASH: It is not ok to call anyone a bitch. It is a highly offensive and hugely derogatory term.
Not that I am absolving myself for calling Tzuyu a "stick". I meant that as a joke for her stiff appearance on variety shows.
But somehow, my joke was distasteful, abhorrent and deemed "not a ONCE" or a "Tzuyu hater" but, if you call Tzuyu a bitch, you're a ONCE and a huge fan of TWICE?
So should my term have been
"That stick personality messed up my heart!!"
Would that make me a ONCE then? How is calling someone who have a stick personality any worse than calling someone a bitch??
Y'all prerogatives are seriously fucked up.